I don’t know about you, but I’ve tended to celebrate New Years Eve a little differently as I’ve aged. In my 20’s I used it as an excuse to drink far too much. (Not my proudest moments, tbh) Thankfully that method of celebration hasn’t appealed to me in quite some time. The past 10 years or so, I’ve preferred to stay home and ring in the New Year with just a few friends or, more often, just with my husband.
This year on New Years Eve, we’re going to:
Just as my celebratory inclinations have changed over the years, so has my approach to the traditional New Years resolution. And the theme. And the goal. Etc., etc., etc.
Back in my 20s, I tried my best to make, and keep, the “right” resolution… whatever that was supposed to be. I didn’t have any idea what my resolution should be, but I was convinced that in order to do New Years right I needed to make a resolution. So, I usually just picked one that I thought everyone would think was worthwhile. By the way, I don’t recommend using that method for choosing a resolution if you choose to go that route.
From there I moved to having a New Year goal. I was a little more successful with that, but I still didn’t have the right frame of mind to be able to choose the best goal for myself.
I’ve also tried having a theme for the upcoming year. Mindfulness, compassion, creativity, and detachment are a few of the themes I’ve chosen over the years. I had the most success, by far, with this approach. I quite enjoyed it actually. Until I didn’t. I grew bored with it. That’s when I stopped being successful at it.
So now, I just go with my intuition as to what, if anything, I’m going to do for the coming year.
I haven’t decided what I’m going to do for 2019 yet, but a friend of mine posed a great idea/challenge to her tribe on Facebook: In a nutshell, she suggests that since our biggest results come from a single focus and consistent effort over time that we should focus outwardly on a problem to be solved either in addition to, or rather than, focusing on some aspect of ourselves.
I’ve got to admit that I’m feeling the truth of that. What if we chose one unjust law and focused our time and attention on getting it changed? What if we chose one polluted area and focused on cleaning it up? What about helping one person with a need – maybe it’s helping them with literacy, or being a foster or adoptive parent. The list of possibilities is as endless as the causes we passionately care about. This would mean taking the time to do a deep dive on a topic and learning everything we can about it. It would also mean keeping an open mind and thinking outside the box when evaluating and formulating possible solutions.
There are myriad alternatives to the tired resolution. I wrote about several of them last year. You can find them at the above link if you need some inspiration for 2019. Which one are you going to do this year? Or are you going to forego the whole self-improvement thing altogether? Let me know in the comments.
And whether you do, or don’t, partake in some form of resolution, goal, theme, improvement, or betterment I wish you all a very happy and prosperous New Year.